The difference between men and women

Women are an interesting subject. Some people say that women cannot be understood and that is probably correct, but I'll try to do that nonetheless. One big reason why women can't be understood is because they don't know what they want or why they do some things, which is to say, they don't understand themselves. 

I've talked about this in my previous post, but I need to reiterate. Women can have a small number of children, while men can have an unlimited number of children. A woman can know for sure that her child is hers, while men can never know for sure, at least they could not know for sure until the invention of paternity tests and DNA tests. I'm talking about instincts, this is not rational, having DNA tests does not change our instincts. A pregnant woman can't survive in nature by herself, she needs a man or a group of people to take care of her, to protect her from predators and to bring food. 

Why am I saying all this? It's because you need to understand how women have evolved to be able to understand some of their actions. First of all, because they can have few children, they are generally more selective than men. You can imagine two women in some remote tribe, one which selects a man with good genes, a healthy and strong man, which can take care of her. The other woman is not so selective and ends up with a man with bad genes, not too bright, not too strong, can't really take care of himself. You can well imagine that the first woman has children with better genes, with bigger chances of survival and reproduction, plus, the man is able to take care of her and her children, therefore, they survive. The second woman has children with bad genes, with less chances of survival, plus, her man is not able to take good care of her and her children, therefore, some children may die of starvation or diseases from malnourishment. So, basically, you only see people descended from the selective women, because their genes for selective behaviour had bigger chances of being spread through the population by way of their descendants. This selection obviously happens each generation. So, this is why women are so selective. Women need to spend a lot of energy and time for their small number of children. 

Men, on the other hand, can have an unlimited number of children, so they are not so selective. If there is one man which obviously has the best genes, a lot of women would want him. This is why men are so competitive, they want to show everyone that they are the best, because women tend to select the men with the best genes. Moreover, there would be no problem if all the women had descendants from the man with the best genes. You can see this behaviour in other species too, like stags that fight each other, to show who is the best (who has the best genes).

Men tend to want to have sex with a lot of women. Again, let's imagine that there are two men, one which is faithful to one woman and never cheats on her and one man which has a harem of women and a lot of them will bear his children. Let's presume that their children have the same chances of survival. You may as well imagine the exponential growth. To make it easier, we will presume that the faithful man will have 4 children, 2 of them inherit the faithful gene, the man with the harem will have 20 children, 10 of them inherit the unfaithful gene. If the conditions continue in the next generation, the faithful genes will go into 4 children, the unfaithful genes will go into 100 children, in another generation, the faithful genes will go into 8 children, the unfaithful genes will go into 1000 children. I think you can see where this is going, this is going to the point where the unfaithful genes are far more successful. The calculations take into account the fact that there are 50% chances for one gene to go into one child. Obviously, I've considered those genes to be dominant. This is the reason why men generally want more women, because the unfaithful genes are more successful and there are bigger chances for those genes to be in any man. 

So, hopefully you now see why women are so selective and men are not so selective. You may see why men are more competitive than women. In my previous post, I talked about the reasons why women don't like to be considered whores. I will not reiterate that part. What is important is the behaviour of women. If a woman likes a man, she will not tell him that (generally). There are a lot of subtleties to flirting. Usually, the sign that someone likes you is that he/she is staring at you. Men usually take the first step, I think it's because they don't really have a reputation to uphold. Nobody likes to be rejected, but someone's got to do it. Anyway, with women it's very strange, as someone said it, when a woman says "no" it means "maybe" and when she says "maybe" it means "yes". 

So, what do women want? They generally want a handsome, rich, famous man, because these men are a sort of alpha males, it signifies to women that they have the best genes. This is why a lot of women would like to be with famous actors or singers. 

What do men want? Well, I think that if it would be possible, most men would want a harem full of beautiful women. The fact that Muslims dream of a paradise with 72 virgins is not that strange. But why do men want virgins? It's simple, really, because men can't be sure their children are theirs (instincts), but selecting a virgin gives men better chances for their future child to be theirs. In nature, suspicion is selected, because if you raise only children that are not your own, your genes are not perpetuated. This is why, for example, if a male lion suspects that some cubs are not his, he will kill them.